There is a brilliant concept expressed in The Outsider, by Colin Wilson. He asks whether a man with a lifelong toothache is egotistical or self-centered. Let’s ask that question of women.Is a woman’s need for love the cause of her vanity or the basis of unselfish giving? Let us ask still one more question: does a man love the woman who is self-sacrificing?The answer to the first is that any woman with something to be vain about is vain and usually has other genuinely good qualities as well, but