In any normal society men give love to get sex, and women give sex to get love. As the saying proffers, “He says, ‘I love you’ so he can kiss her, and she kisses him so he’ll say, “I love you.’”

When a society tends toward disintegration, a man goes right on saying what he always says except that he doesn’t mean it and she doesn’t believe it. As the content gets to be less and less to be relied on, the style becomes more and more important. The one who is cheated most, however, is the woman. The man still gets his sex, but the woman doesn’t get her love.

When a woman isn’t really loved, there is all kinds of “hell” to pay. She could refuse to give sex, but then she doesn’t get asked out, and that is even worse than getting only the illusion of love. At least the illusion of love is a temporary salve. But she is fully aware of that temporary status and revolts against it, though she may not break completely from it.

A woman in such a situation begins to live more and more in the present, because to look into the future is to realize her plight, so she demands the most the present can offer in the way of entertainment, attention, and excitement. She wants security but, fearing that she can’t really get it, she settles for the next best thing, which is notoriety, because it will assure her a constant (though not stable) round of dates.

In men, sex is a need, but in women sex can be a weapon.

A woman sometimes uses sex as the leverage to get what she wants, which (if not love) is status. Status is money and the things money can buy. Unloved women use sex as a weapon for financial exploitation.

When this kind of woman is openly sought, she holds back on sex for a better bargaining position. When she sees a man who looks as if he has a lot with which to bargain, she uses sex to entice his interest

When the moral man indulges in sex to whatever degree his morality will allow, he ought to know whether he is warming his hands over a kitchen stove or he is fanning the flickering flames of a potential forest fire.

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