Women think they resent the man who gives them a line. Moral men, hearing how women detest lines are apt to believe they will avoid this error and bargain with sincerity. Men should learn that women often do not say what they mean but there is always meaning in what they say.

Men are just as bad. They say they don’t like forward women. What they really mean is that they don’t like forward women that they don’t like. They do like forward women that they do like. Women should learn to understand themselves, but then they wouldn’t be women. Besides, a man can’t resist qualities in a woman that she herself doesn’t know she has. So perhaps things are better as they are.

Anyway, women resent lines that are not good. In fact they don’t even resent a bad line as such, but they do resent being given a line they are expected to believe, for their intelligence is slighted.

Actually, any woman resents being taken for granted. She doesn’t want to feel that she is just like all the others a man has flattered. After all, she is a prize to be given only to the man who understands that she is unique.

The object in giving a woman a line is to compliment her on her uniqueness in not believing it. That strategy wins her. Let’s try a melodramatic example.

Passing a beautiful blond, our man stops her and quips, “Hey, haven’t I seen you somewhere before?”

She says, “I don’t think so.”

“But I remember your eyes; you have the most beautiful eyes.”

She grins, “Ah, come on, you’re just giving me a line. I don’t believe that.”

“You’re right. I’ve never met you before, but there wasn’t any other way I could get you to stop and talk to me. You’re very interesting.”

Flattered and a bit surprised, she says, “Well, yes, thank you then.”

“Do you still think I’m trying to give you a line?” asks our man.

She says, “Yes.”

With twinkling eyes, our man declares, “You are right, but I flatter you only because you’re worth the effort.”

“What effort?” she taunts.

“Like the risk of asking out a very lovely woman that I have never met before.”

She smiles, “I say yes, not because I believe a word you say, but because I like the way you say it.”

A line is nothing more or less than a way of overcoming the social obstacles that a lack of an introduction can pose. What is at first a problem can be turned into an advantage. The lack of a formal introduction is the obstacle that you use as a dramatic way of meeting her.

Your line is the way you have devised to reach her. You use a line that you know she will not blindly accept in order to catch her attention long enough to tell her that she is unique and worth a man’s effort. If she doesn’t believe the line because she knows what’s going on, she really is worth your effort.

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