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Soon, you will marry a guy whose culture is totally different from yours. You live all your life in the USA. He was born, raised and grew up in Israel. You may wonder, “Am I really prepared to embrace his culture?” One way or another, you have to take up the challenge. Complete frankness with each other is vital. Sources of irritation should be aired before they grow out of proportion. See what can be worked out. Some, after all effort has been made, may find lifestyles are just too dissimil Read the rest of this entry »
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Nobody needs love more and gets it less than the unattractive woman. The ironic thing is that no woman is more difficult to "hustle." The first reason is that she doesn't believe a man when he makes a play for her. The second reason is that, even if she did, she doesn't know how to react to a man because she hasn't had much experience in playing the game of romance.The attractive woman will set you up for the next thing to say by her positive response to what went before.The not-so-bea Read the rest of this entry »
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She would he the moral woman whom the moral man loses by trying to exhibit character qualities except that because she is so popular, he puts her up on a pedestal.There is no doubt that the moral man and the popular woman are going to be at least good friends since their common bond is morality. Romance is the problem.Friendship is the first prerequisite, however. You can always "add romance to friendship much more easily than you can add friendship to a romance."Don't kid yourself for Read the rest of this entry »
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You may rest assured that if the "not-so-smart" woman is good-looking, she will usually be shallow. The "not-so-smart" woman who is not good-looking may be quite deep. Depth is too often associated with intelligence. Depth is a function of the emotional capacity to be sensitive to one's own feelings or the feelings of others.If she is good-looking, don't think that it really bothers her that she isn't considered intelligent. It doesn't. What sometimes does get to her, however Read the rest of this entry »
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There is some one thing at the crux of every man or woman's life from which all else springs. In the same sense that the laws of relativity can be deduced from the simple mathematical expression E=MC2, so can all the intricate and complex mysteries of a woman's soul be deduced from her need to be loved. That doesn't mean that there are not a hundred things which no one knows about women. But when and if they are discovered, it will be found that they fit harmoniously with that which is already k Read the rest of this entry »
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The first thing you have to learn about "hustling" religious women is that you don't win them by being religious for the same reason that she doesn't fall romantically in love with her priest, minister, or bishop. That does not mean that you won't have to be religious (once you have won her) to keep her, because you probably will.You have to understand the relationship of the religious woman with the wild woman. The religious woman does not necessarily want to be wild, but she envies t Read the rest of this entry »
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There is a crucial timing differential between the moment a man is first attracted to a woman and the time when she becomes interested in him. This is the normal state of affairs.Occasionally, however, the timing of a woman's interest may run at about the same speed as her interested pursuer, or even faster. That is possible, but not probable. When this does happen, a man attributes his success to his greatness, when in reality he is just in the basic price range and available. If he has greatne Read the rest of this entry »
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Fashion photographers make small fortunes by knowing how to get a certain look from a woman. You can look into any of the major fashion magazines and there it will be. She may be holding onto a man's sleeve, sizing up last year's wardrobe, or gallantly trying to hide behind this season's outrageous new fashion.Next year the styles may be different, but that same look in a new style of clothes will be looking deeply into your eyes from her ever-changing background. The look itself never fundament Read the rest of this entry »
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Men do not charm by being good looking, but by a certain kind of look. That look is an intrinsic part of a man's charm. It is an essential part of a man's personality in the same way that the good use of the English language is a prerequisite to a woman's attractiveness.A man is not charmed initially by a woman's words, but words within the context of looks are important. If she doesn't have the content to back up her looks, he eventually loses interest.Men, on the other hand, need to have the & Read the rest of this entry »
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The sophisticated woman usually is sophisticated for one of two reasons. She is either sophisticated because it was her whole family upbringing and cultural orientation, or she is sophisticated because she was once insecure (not knowing where she belonged). She then tried for what she considered the highest strata, and made it.If she is the first, the only way to ever win her is to have been brought up in the same kind of atmosphere as she has, or to have become so popular (great author, school Read the rest of this entry »
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A man is charmed essentially by what he sees and a woman is charmed essentially by what she hears. A man then obviously wants a good-looking woman; but he is charmed not just by the bone-structure and its covering of flesh and skin, but by everything he can see. He is charmed by a woman’s total physical appearance. That appearance includes her physical beauty, cleanliness of appearance, clothes, posture, her overall deportment, her air of confidence, the look of detached aloofness in her eyes, and especially her smile. Men live on women’s smiles.
There is no reason, then, why a man who knows that women are vain should ever have to be insincere. There is much he can legitimately praise. He is charmed by what he sees, and he knows that women know that men are charmed by what they see. He ought to capitalize on it. Even if he were an immoral opportunist, he still ought to be sincere when he can. After all, the first rule of being a spy is to tell the truth when you can and lie only when you have to. Here there is no need to lie.
The moral man has only to analyze which of the many things a woman possesses that charm him and tell her so with deliberate flair.
If a man were not charmed by a certain something, he wouldn’t be trying to win the woman in the first place. Since he is charmed, he might as well find out what attracts him and spend some of his time telling her about it.
Now women want to be loved and they know that men love attractive-looking women. Being told she is attractive is synonymous, to most women, with being told she is loved. We all have our own self-interest at heart, and it is a man’s best interest to appeal to a woman’s self-interest.
As the quote says, “Flattery will get you nowhere unless the woman you are talking to is vain; but as most women are vain, flattery will get you almost anywhere.”
This of course would not be true if attractive women were secure, but that is one thing they are not. Although they should be, they aren’t. Now, a woman’s charm is locked in her genetic structure, but a man’s charm is as high and as wide and as free as he can find words to give it utterance. A woman is limited romantically by her physical appearance and if fate should make her physically attractive, it is doubtful that her bone structure will change overnight. If she were beautiful yesterday, she ought to be beautiful tomorrow. She ought to feel secure if the things most fundamental to her charm are not apt to change.
The truth is, however, that women are more insecure, for while a man’s interest easily runs to the heights of captivation with a single glance, his interest is just as easily distracted by another glance at some other attractive woman.
Being told she is good-looking or attractive to a woman is her single best indicator of a man’s love. Telling her you find her attractive is expressing to her that she is loved, but she requires your constant daily reassurance to continue in that state of mind.
The only problem with this flattery is that she may not believe you’re sincere. Gently point out to her that you have no reason to lie or else you wouldn’t be pursuing her in the first place.
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Women think they resent the man who gives them a line. Moral men, hearing how women detest lines are apt to believe they will avoid this error and bargain with sincerity. Men should learn that women often do not say what they mean but there is always meaning in what they say.
Men are just as bad. They say they don’t like forward women. What they really mean is that they don’t like forward women that they don’t like. They do like forward women that they do like. Women should learn to understand themselves, but then they wouldn’t be women. Besides, a man can’t resist qualities in a woman that she herself doesn’t know she has. So perhaps things are better as they are.
Anyway, women resent lines that are not good. In fact they don’t even resent a bad line as such, but they do resent being given a line they are expected to believe, for their intelligence is slighted.
Actually, any woman resents being taken for granted. She doesn’t want to feel that she is just like all the others a man has flattered. After all, she is a prize to be given only to the man who understands that she is unique.
The object in giving a woman a line is to compliment her on her uniqueness in not believing it. That strategy wins her. Let’s try a melodramatic example.
Passing a beautiful blond, our man stops her and quips, “Hey, haven’t I seen you somewhere before?”
She says, “I don’t think so.”
“But I remember your eyes; you have the most beautiful eyes.”
She grins, “Ah, come on, you’re just giving me a line. I don’t believe that.”
“You’re right. I’ve never met you before, but there wasn’t any other way I could get you to stop and talk to me. You’re very interesting.”
Flattered and a bit surprised, she says, “Well, yes, thank you then.”
“Do you still think I’m trying to give you a line?” asks our man.
She says, “Yes.”
With twinkling eyes, our man declares, “You are right, but I flatter you only because you’re worth the effort.”
“What effort?” she taunts.
“Like the risk of asking out a very lovely woman that I have never met before.”
She smiles, “I say yes, not because I believe a word you say, but because I like the way you say it.”
A line is nothing more or less than a way of overcoming the social obstacles that a lack of an introduction can pose. What is at first a problem can be turned into an advantage. The lack of a formal introduction is the obstacle that you use as a dramatic way of meeting her.
Your line is the way you have devised to reach her. You use a line that you know she will not blindly accept in order to catch her attention long enough to tell her that she is unique and worth a man’s effort. If she doesn’t believe the line because she knows what’s going on, she really is worth your effort.
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What so often passes for lack of interest on the part of a woman is really a put-on act of indifference. The difference is that a lack of interest springs from the sincerity of her heart, but the air of indifference is a way of protecting herself from getting involved and then being hurt. It takes time to learn to trust.A woman needs the reassurance that you love her and will retain an interest in her welfare over and above your personal desire for her.If there were ever an area in which the mor Read the rest of this entry »
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Hectic work schedule is one of the primary causes why many people are opting for online dating rather than traditional dating. This is evident in the number of online dating portals that have come up in the recent past. A huge number of people are comfortable with sitting at home and getting to know people rather than go and socialize. The obvious benefits are good but there are a lot of safety precautions which you should observe so that you do not fall prey to common problems which abound in t Read the rest of this entry »
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Sexual morality has taken a real beating for many years. Even in the old days before the advent of the “new morality,” everybody who believed in morality believed in it because it was believed to be right, though torturously difficult to live. Discipline in regard to sex was something with which one had to struggle. It was a great inconvenience to contain oneself, but contain oneself through self-discipline one did. It was one’s duty.
The great essayist, Oliver Goldsmith, however, once revealed an interesting concept. He said: “Adventure is inconvenience rightly considered.” Now elegance is the sophisticated first cousin of adventure, and the essence of elegance is, “I will put off the gratification of my desire until I can gratify it at the very peak of my capacity to enjoy it. That leaves me free to enjoy the greatest possible anticipation all along the way and also makes me a person of great respect since my discipline puts me above the mundane world.”
Elegance hasn’t said a thing about morality, but sexual morality is possibly the greatest thing a person could be elegant about.
Look at it this way. You meet a woman and you fall in love, and then you wait until you are married to have sexual intercourse with her. You get all the anticipation along the way, you get the greatest possible enjoyment of the culmination of that anticipation, and you respect yourself for your discipline afterward. Nobody even uses the words “must” or “ought” in the aesthetic argument.
It is just the most elegant way to live. If you want to be elegant, you have to do elegant things. If you are not elegant, you are one who does not do elegant things. This is a gross oversimplification of a very complex argument, but at least the essence of it has been explained.
You wait just as long as you can before you hold her hand, and then you hold it at just the right moment. You wait just as long as you can before you kiss her, and then you lass her in just the right dramatic situation. You wait just as long as you can before you take her to bed, and the dramatic moment is after you have married her.